Pls post ur view (age 21 and above only)

[heshan123]

Hey guys and girls, I have a small question. I would like to know ur idea about this. First of all I must say that this question is relevant to ppl who are at least 21 years of age and above.

Ok here is the issue. Do you think marriage is a pre-requisite for couples to have sex ????

Was that something I shouldn't have asked, Im so sorry. But this thing is something I debated a lot with myself. :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes:

So if you have an idea please feel free to share.

Thanks !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[x-pert]

Nice post... NO...

Marriage is not a pre-request for sex in ma point of view.. in other words you are asking whether its correct to have sex before marriage ryt???

[heshan123]

Nice post... NO...

Marriage is not a pre-request for sex in ma point of view.. in other words you are asking whether its correct to have sex before marriage ryt???
Yes ayya, but Sri Lankan culture says otherwise. What do you think about that ?

[crazyfool]

Aiyo 21 and above withari da... :P

[heshan123]

Aiyo 21 and above withari da... :P
The thing is this macho. If an underage fellow answers this, Im not really sure he will understand the real issues here and answer it. It will be too much for him to think about.

[Pata]

Moko me eka parata... :P It differs from one person to the other.. There are different types of sex ne.. :P.. I personally don't mind having a sexual relationship with my partner before marriage.. but not to the extreme(You Know What I mean. ;) )

[heshan123]

Moko me eka parata... :P It differs from one person to the other.. There are different types of sex ne.. :P.. I personally don't mind having a sexual relationship with my partner before marriage.. but not to the extreme(You Know What I mean. ;) )
Hmmmmmmmmm...........ok. Thats a good comment. Any idea why. And by the way are u above 21??? I dont think so. Ur Sudu Malli right? If so ur not even 20.

[chamithal]

Well! In my case... I think I'd wait till the proper time... :P

[x-pert]

Mehemai machang,

Hmm.. culture... what is culture...?? Culture is a thing which has benn created by a set of people... We beleive its correct coz that culture was in Sri Lanka before us...

Having said that.....

Yes, culture is important... But machang ooka thamai ape culture eke waradda... ooni nathi dewal thiyaagena, oone dewal thiyaganne nahane.... :no:

Ape country eka aragena baluwahama girlslata wada kalin boys la sex paththata yanawa... You get what I mean?
Almost all the guys do have sex before marrying a woman... isn't it true.. ?? (Not ALL, but ALMOST ALL)

Ithin ayi api kiyanne girlslata ehema karanna epa kiyala.....??

Okay.. I also want(ed) to have sex with a virgin for the first time.... All have a dream like that... but machang... Is it important...? Whats the point...
Boyslata ooni deyak karanna puluwan habai girlslata mukuth karanna baha kiyala ne kiyanne ethakota....

Ayi ehema karanne... mokakda theruma...??

According to our so called 'culture' we have a respect like that to women.. true... but why should we be selfish like that....

Virginity is not an important thing in marriage. It shouldn't be.... what matters most is the understanding between the two and the TRUST...
May be the girl may have lost it due to an accident or may be she hasn't got it by birth... those can happen.... So why should we check for it when we marry...?

Sex plays an important role in love... once you had it with a person... I just cant explain it by words.... Not with a prostitute but with your true love... Thats a real sensation... Love will increase immensly... So you dont need to wait until you marry to do it... but this is just my point of view... someone else might have a different view about it...

[crazyfool]

The thing is this macho. If an underage fellow answers this, Im not really sure he will understand the real issues here and answer it. It will be too much for him to think about.

Mata 19, age of consent lankawe 13 lu dang :shocked: :eek:

Consider what I have to say if you want to: I think it's up to you and your partner, do what you feel is right considering all your relationships, including family, and how you would feel about it if you were to have sex before marriage. :)

Also I have to say that no matter what happens family is the most important. :)

[nEoN_wHitE]

good topic.. have thigns 2 say here..
bt now now time.. i'll post my ideas 2morrow oki:D
bye:D
nitzzz

[Pata]

Sudu Malli.. :lol: :lol: :lol: ... Man Pata ban.. I'm well over 21...:yes: The reason why I say you should not go to the extreme is because by any chance if your relationship gets broken then you don't wanna be putting a girl's future in danger.. You Know Sri Lankan culture is different... Society don't expect sex before marriage.. Hmmmmmmmmm...........ok. Thats a good comment. Any idea why. And by the way are u above 21??? I dont think so. Ur Sudu Malli right? If so ur not even 20.

[chamithal]

Mehemai machang,

Hmm.. culture... what is culture...?? Culture is a thing which has benn created by a set of people... We beleive its correct coz that culture was in Sri Lanka before us...

Having said that.....

Yes, culture is important... But machang ooka thamai ape culture eke waradda... ooni nathi dewal thiyaagena, oone dewal thiyaganne nahane.... :no:

Ape country eka aragena baluwahama girlslata wada kalin boys la sex paththata yanawa... You get what I mean?
Almost all the guys do have sex before marrying a woman... isn't it true.. ?? (Not ALL, but ALMOST ALL)

Ithin ayi api kiyanne girlslata ehema karanna epa kiyala.....??

Okay.. I also want(ed) to have sex with a virgin for the first time.... All have a dream like that... but machang... Is it important...? Whats the point...
Boyslata ooni deyak karanna puluwan habai girlslata mukuth karanna baha kiyala ne kiyanne ethakota....

Ayi ehema karanne... mokakda theruma...??

According to our so called 'culture' we have a respect like that to women.. true... but why should we be selfish like that....

Virginity is not an important thing in marriage. It shouldn't be.... what matters most is the understanding between the two and the TRUST...
May be the girl may have lost it due to an accident or may be she hasn't got it by birth... those can happen.... So why should we check for it when we marry...?

Sex plays an important role in love... once you had it with a person... I just cant explain it by words.... Not with a prostitute but with your true love... Thats a real sensation... Love will increase immensly... So you dont need to wait until you marry to do it... but this is just my point of view... someone else might have a different view about it...

OMG.. Seems like u really are a damn expert! :P

[chamithal]

Sudu Malli.. :lol: :lol: :lol: ... Man Pata ban.. I'm well over 21...:yes: The reason why I say you should not go to the extreme is because by any chance if your relationship gets broken then you don't wanna be putting a girl's future in danger.. You Know Sri Lankan culture is different... Society don't expect sex before marriage..

Hmm... Eaka nam aththa... Relationship 1 break wennema na kiyala sure nam ok ne? :P

[x-pert]

OMG.. Seems like u really are a damn expert! :P


:no:

me subject eka gana thawa igena ganna ooni bung.... :yes:

[Pata]

Its up to you.. :lol: :rofl: :P
Hmm... Eaka nam aththa... Relationship 1 break wennema na kiyala sure nam ok ne? :P

[crazyfool]

Mehemai machang,

Hmm.. culture... what is culture...?? Culture is a thing which has benn created by a set of people... We beleive its correct coz that culture was in Sri Lanka before us...

Having said that.....

Yes, culture is important... But machang ooka thamai ape culture eke waradda... ooni nathi dewal thiyaagena, oone dewal thiyaganne nahane.... :no:

Ape country eka aragena baluwahama girlslata wada kalin boys la sex paththata yanawa... You get what I mean?
Almost all the guys do have sex before marrying a woman... isn't it true.. ?? (Not ALL, but ALMOST ALL)

Ithin ayi api kiyanne girlslata ehema karanna epa kiyala.....??

Okay.. I also want(ed) to have sex with a virgin for the first time.... All have a dream like that... but machang... Is it important...? Whats the point...
Boyslata ooni deyak karanna puluwan habai girlslata mukuth karanna baha kiyala ne kiyanne ethakota....

Ayi ehema karanne... mokakda theruma...??

According to our so called 'culture' we have a respect like that to women.. true... but why should we be selfish like that....

Virginity is not an important thing in marriage. It shouldn't be.... what matters most is the understanding between the two and the TRUST...
May be the girl may have lost it due to an accident or may be she hasn't got it by birth... those can happen.... So why should we check for it when we marry...?

Sex plays an important role in love... once you had it with a person... I just cant explain it by words.... Not with a prostitute but with your true love... Thats a real sensation... Love will increase immensly... So you dont need to wait until you marry to do it... but this is just my point of view... someone else might have a different view about it...

True true :yes: :yes:

Also, bit off topic, something I have to say about tradition:

You know the Buddha has said that all things are impermanent.

Machang Mihindu hamaduruvo Lanka weta avith buddhagema gena pu davesae ape minusu Qwa nang "apoi, this is against our tradition" kiyala, ehnang dang Buddhagema kiyala deyak lankave naha. ;)

[x-pert]

Hmm... Eaka nam aththa... Relationship 1 break wennema na kiyala sure nam ok ne? :P


Its like this....

relationship eka break unath marry karana kena danaganna ooni oowa balanne nathuwa inna..... mokakda balala athi wade bung...???

mikan blood tikak yana eka diha balala mokak karannada...???

Pissu manasgaatha...

[heshan123]

Mehemai machang,

Hmm.. culture... what is culture...?? Culture is a thing which has benn created by a set of people... We beleive its correct coz that culture was in Sri Lanka before us...

Having said that.....

Yes, culture is important... But machang ooka thamai ape culture eke waradda... ooni nathi dewal thiyaagena, oone dewal thiyaganne nahane.... :no:

Ape country eka aragena baluwahama girlslata wada kalin boys la sex paththata yanawa... You get what I mean?
Almost all the guys do have sex before marrying a woman... isn't it true.. ?? (Not ALL, but ALMOST ALL)

Ithin ayi api kiyanne girlslata ehema karanna epa kiyala.....??

Okay.. I also want(ed) to have sex with a virgin for the first time.... All have a dream like that... but machang... Is it important...? Whats the point...
Boyslata ooni deyak karanna puluwan habai girlslata mukuth karanna baha kiyala ne kiyanne ethakota....

Ayi ehema karanne... mokakda theruma...??

According to our so called 'culture' we have a respect like that to women.. true... but why should we be selfish like that....

Virginity is not an important thing in marriage. It shouldn't be.... what matters most is the understanding between the two and the TRUST...
May be the girl may have lost it due to an accident or may be she hasn't got it by birth... those can happen.... So why should we check for it when we marry...?

Sex plays an important role in love... once you had it with a person... I just cant explain it by words.... Not with a prostitute but with your true love... Thats a real sensation... Love will increase immensly... So you dont need to wait until you marry to do it... but this is just my point of view... someone else might have a different view about it...

Wow great answer x-pert ayya. I agree with u on many places. Specially the place where Sri Lankans check the virginity of a girl. I dont think its fair. Ok here is the next issue. I read in an article that relationships that has pre-marital sex wont last for long. The thing is that the couple will not have the strong sexual attraction that they should have after marriage (coz they have done it earlier it is nothing new to them). What do you think. Will that be true ?

[crazyfool]

Its like this....

relationship eka break unath marry karana kena danaganna ooni oowa balanne nathuwa inna..... mokakda balala athi wade bung...???

mikan blood tikak yana eka diha balala mokak karannada...???

Pissu manasgaatha...

Blood yane wa balane :eek: :eek: :eek: one nissa nemi, something to do with whether the person has been "used" or not. :lol: :lol: :P

[chamithal]

:no:

me subject eka gana thawa igena ganna ooni bung.... :yes:

Ow ow! Ammo! Mata nam no practical experiences! :shocked: :D Thawa Kalantharayak balan inna wei! :P :angry:

[crazyfool]

Apo... mae topic eka tikak mokade wage mata kathakarane... mang giyo...

[x-pert]

True true :yes: :yes:

Also, bit off topic, something I have to say about tradition:

You know the Buddha has said that all things are impermanent.

Machang Mihindu hamaduruvo Lanka weta avith buddhagema gena pu davesae ape minusu Qwa nang "apoi, this is against our tradition" kiyala, ehnang dang Buddhagema kiyala deyak lankave naha. ;)


Thats change machang...

People are resistant to change...

They go through 4 phases in any change process.
1) Denial
2) Resistant
3) Explloration
4) Confident

So about virginity now the society is on the 3rd level...

But sooner or later they will realise it is a useless thing and confidently will say that it aint important but love is only important....

[Tissaka]

dnt knw

[chamithal]

Its like this....

relationship eka break unath marry karana kena danaganna ooni oowa balanne nathuwa inna..... mokakda balala athi wade bung...???

mikan blood tikak yana eka diha balala mokak karannada...???

Pissu manasgaatha...

Eaka nam aththa machan! Matath owa nam issues nemey! :D But we are not the society ne... A relationship can go ny direction ne! Ithin kokatath hondai sure ma naththam tikak shape eke darunu dewal walin walakila inna eka ne?

[chamithal]

Its up to you.. :lol: :rofl: :P

:P:P:P Yeahh! :D Well! ;)

[heshan123]

Sudu Malli.. :lol: :lol: :lol: ... Man Pata ban.. I'm well over 21...:yes: The reason why I say you should not go to the extreme is because by any chance if your relationship gets broken then you don't wanna be putting a girl's future in danger.. You Know Sri Lankan culture is different... Society don't expect sex before marriage..
Sorry boss. I miss-took you for Dj-Pata. You two are different. :D :D :D :D :D :D
Please keep on posting on this thread.

[x-pert]

Blood yane wa balane :eek: :eek: :eek: one nissa nemi, something to do with whether the person has been "used" or not. :lol: :lol: :P


Used or not used.. whats the big deal...???
Dont we use ours....????

[Pata]

But the thing is not everyone in our society look at this matter by the same angle that you are looking at.. So should you take that kind of a risk which wud probably cost a girl's life..
Its like this....

relationship eka break unath marry karana kena danaganna ooni oowa balanne nathuwa inna..... mokakda balala athi wade bung...???

mikan blood tikak yana eka diha balala mokak karannada...???

Pissu manasgaatha...

[x-pert]

Eaka nam aththa machan! Matath owa nam issues nemey! :D But we are not the society ne... A relationship can go ny direction ne! Ithin kokatath hondai sure ma naththam tikak shape eke darunu dewal walin walakila inna eka ne?


haah uba kiyanne prevention is better than cure kiyala ne??

Owu society eke widihata eeka hari...

But dont ever do it to a girl I mean when you marry a person dont ever try to check whether she is a virgin or not... Thats my point machang...

[heshan123]

But the thing is not everyone in our society look at this matter by the same angle that you are looking at.. So should you take that kind of a risk which wud probably cost a girl's life..
Podi aththak thibe kathawe. :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes:

[crazyfool]

Used or not used.. whats the big deal...???
Dont we use ours....????

That's why I used the quotes when I said used. I personally think women have all the right to have pre-marital sex, likewise they have all the right not to. Same thing applies to guys.

But regardless of our rights, when we mess with tradition, we can hurt some ppl like our family and their perceptions.

[x-pert]

But the thing is not everyone in our society look at this matter by the same angle that you are looking at.. So should you take that kind of a risk which wud probably cost a girl's life..


Girl's life.... hehe... There you go machang... onna ookane society eke waradda...

Aulak naththam ube age eka kiyahan...

But machang, dennama kamathi nam kalaata waradak naha kiyalai mama kiyanne...

[heshan123]

That's why I used the quotes when I said used. I personally think women have all the right to have pre-marital sex, likewise they have all the right not to. Same thing applies to guys.

But regardless of our rights, when we mess with tradition, we can hurt some ppl like our family and their perceptions.
Hurt ??? What do you mean by hurt some ppl ??? Im not really sure about that.

[heshan123]

Girl's life.... hehe... There you go machang... onna ookane society eke waradda...

Aulak naththam ube age eka kiyahan...

But machang, dennama kamathi nam kalaata waradak naha kiyalai mama kiyanne...
X-pert ayya. Post #19 walata answer karannakoooooooooooo

[shalinda]

no i don't think sex is all the thing love is the main thing as i know

[heshan123]

no i don't think sex is all the thing love is the main thing as i know
But do you see any risk, where having sex will actually damage the relationship.

[x-pert]

Wow great answer x-pert ayya. I agree with u on many places. Specially the place where Sri Lankans check the virginity of a girl. I dont think its fair. Ok here is the next issue. I read in an article that relationships that has pre-marital sex wont last for long. The thing is that the couple will not have the strong sexual attraction that they should have after marriage (coz they have done it earlier it is nothing new to them). What do you think. Will that be true ?


before marrying or after marrying they have to do it ne machang.... Yes its true the attarction will eventually go down after some time... Thats why after the marriage couples are not as same as when they were not married.

But machang..... before marriage it doesn't happen. Coz they both wants to go to the next level.. I mean they both will want to marry each other and to live with the same person for the rest of their lives...

So pre-marital sex wont last long coz, they will marry soon. So itll be marital sex... haha :lol: (jk)

only thing what will happen is, the couple wont find a difference before and after marriage... coz they were living in the same way...

[crazyfool]

Hurt ??? What do you mean by hurt some ppl ??? Im not really sure about that.

Sorry, I mean hurt by some people. Family ekka traditional nang etha kote girl/boy (mostly for girls) will have a hard time with them afterwards. Even though it may be kept a secret.

[heshan123]

before marrying or after marrying they have to do it ne machang.... Yes its true the attarction will eventually go down after some time... Thats why after the marriage couples are not as same as when they were not married.

But machang..... before marriage it doesn't happen. Coz they both wants to go to the next level.. I mean they both will want to marry each other and to live with the same person for the rest of their lives...

So pre-marital sex wont last long coz, they will marry soon. So itll be marital sex... haha :lol: (jk)

only thing what will happen is, the couple wont find a difference before and after marriage... coz they were living in the same way...
Exactly. As far as i see marriage is suppose to be a "one big happy surprise". If you spoil it before the marriage, im not sure whether it will affect the post-marriage life.

[heshan123]

Sorry, I mean hurt by some people. Family ekka traditional nang etha kote girl/boy (mostly for girls) will have a hard time with them afterwards. Even though it may be kept a secret.
Macho if this thing is kept as a secret then no one will know. If thats the case, no one will try to question the girl about her virginity. neda ??

[crazyfool]

Macho if this thing is kept as a secret then no one will know. If thats the case, no one will try to question the girl about her virginity. neda ??

Ah I see. Habi mang kiyane personal perspective eken. Mage hitahe api denna not on the same page. :)

I dunno man... personally it's up to you. If someone has to marry a virgin then they better ask before they get married nathang x-pert ayya Qwa wage, don't ask. :lol: :lol: :lol:

[KishanW]

sorry.com
mama thaama 19(coming soon 20:lol:)

[Wal Bada]

Nice post... NO...

Marriage is not a pre-request for sex in ma point of view.. in other words you are asking whether its correct to have sex before marriage ryt???All defines you how do you define sex. You can have flirting, oral sex or genital sex (anal sex if you are a bit of a variant)

It's up to two partners to decide on it. Sri Lankan culture (wrongly) expects every bride to be a virgin (fuck the relatives off!:angry: :angry: ) Losing virginity may become an issue. If two partners are sure enough that they are going to marry or the girl's virginity is not going to be an issue for her, why not go and drill it!;)

Sex helps so much for bonding between a couple. Why should it start only after marriage?

On the other hand you should be mature enough to address the consequences like un-wanted pregnancies. Condoms or other contracetives should be used. Postinor within 24 hours of sex will reduce un wanted pregancies by 99.8%.

Then you should always be sure your partner is not promiscus. Otherwise you'll end up with cascade od sexually transmitted diseases and even with HIV, Hepatitis B or Herpes.:shocked:

[Wal Bada]

hBut dont ever do it to a girl I mean when you marry a person dont ever try to check whether she is a virgin or not... Thats my point machang...Ela kathawa! Eth pusa hora maalu wala raha danna kota, horaama kanna purudu wenawa! Meka kaasiye anik paththa. Oya pathi dekama mama elatama athdakala thiyenawa.;)

[chamithal]

haah uba kiyanne prevention is better than cure kiyala ne??

Owu society eke widihata eeka hari...

But dont ever do it to a girl I mean when you marry a person dont ever try to check whether she is a virgin or not... Thats my point machang...

Yeah! Of course! As long as I love... it doesn't matter even she's married b4 :shocked: Love is the thing! yeah boss! I agree! ;)

[shanX]

Repost :P

[DIRTY X]

meka nagala yanawa wage.. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
ela eloooo....

[heshan123]

meka nagala yanawa wage.. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
ela eloooo....
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

[heshan123]

All defines you how do you define sex. You can have flirting, oral sex or genital sex (anal sex if you are a bit of a variant)

It's up to two partners to decide on it. Sri Lankan culture (wrongly) expects every bride to be a virgin (fuck the relatives off!:angry: :angry: ) Losing virginity may become an issue. If two partners are sure enough that they are going to marry or the girl's virginity is not going to be an issue for her, why not go and drill it!;)

Sex helps so much for bonding between a couple. Why should it start only after marriage?

On the other hand you should be mature enough to address the consequences like un-wanted pregnancies. Condoms or other contracetives should be used. Postinor within 24 hours of sex will reduce un wanted pregancies by 99.8%.

Then you should always be sure your partner is not promiscus. Otherwise you'll end up with cascade od sexually transmitted diseases and even with HIV, Hepatitis B or Herpes.:shocked:

Hmmmmmmmm............ good comment macho. Keep it up.

[heshan123]

sorry.com
mama thaama 19(coming soon 20:lol:)
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Better stay off the thread macho. Sorry.

[nAPs2JAAN]

sex is something that important 4 lovers.it doesn't mean that all lovers should have sex b4 marriage but if both agree i mean if both feel like doing so its ok to have some cz it can make the relationship more stronger and always it will be a sweet memory for a couple. but marriage is the most important thin in a life for a couple as i think.
so what i recommend is to do big things after the marriage.
bt never do sex with a guy or a girl that u r not sure of marring bcz that will be a very very bad memory if u marry some1 els later on ur life :)

[ruchira_jay]

ummmm.. nice thread!! well, machangla, my point is this, if the guys have the freedom to get out there and explore the sexuality why not girls?.. Sexual urge is a natural cause and it dosent vary from men to women.

Thanks to the bloody victorian culture embeded to the traditional sri lankan way of life, now many men expect their bride to be a virgin yet they could go around and have sex with who ever they want..

I know many lankan girls out here do everything else except the "real thing" and find some nice "original" sri lankan boy to marry!! Well, "technically" she's a virgin, apart from all the male genitalias she's handled..!! :D .. ..is she really a virgin or not?.. you decide!

WELL...the bottom line is, pre-marital sex IS NOT & SHOULD NOT be an issue.. Sex is a basic human need and it must remain that way ..its nothing sacred and nothing to be scared of..!! ;)

[nAPs2JAAN]

Repost :P
:lol: :lol: :lol:

[heshan123]

sex is something that important 4 lovers.it doesn't mean that all lovers should have sex b4 marriage but if both agree i mean if both feel like doing so its ok to have some cz it can make the relationship more stronger and always it will be a sweet memory for a couple. but marriage is the most important thin in a life for a couple as i think.
so what i recommend is to do big things after the marriage.
bt never do sex with a guy or a girl that u r not sure of marring bcz that will be a very very bad memory if u marry some1 els later on ur life :)
By 'big things' you meant the real course right? So what u actually mean is its ok to explore a bit around the sex world but with no serious commitments ???
Is that what u mean macho ?
Oh and by the way are u over 21 ??? Ur 19 as far as i can remember. Having a GF is not a qualification to post in this thread..... :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

[nAPs2JAAN]

By 'big things' you meant the real course right? So what u actually mean is its ok to explore a bit around the sex world but with no serious commitments ???
Is that what u mean macho ?
Oh and by the way are u over 21 ??? Ur 19 as far as i can remember. Having a GF is not a qualification to post in this thread..... :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
:( :( :( :( :( :( :( ahhh im ganna cry :( :( :( :(

u said im not qualified to post in here :( :( :( :( :(

[heshan123]

ummmm.. nice thread!! well, machangla, my point is this, if the guys have the freedom to get out there and explore the sexuality why not girls?.. Sexual urge is a natural cause and it dosent vary from men to women.

Thanks to the bloody victorian culture embeded to the traditional sri lankan way of life, now many men expect their bride to be a virgin yet they could go around and have sex with who ever they want..

I know many lankan girls out here do everything else except the "real thing" and find some nice "original" sri lankan boy to marry!! Well, "technically" she's a virgin, apart from all the male genitalias she's handled..!! :D .. ..is she really a virgin or not?.. you decide!

WELL...the bottom line is, pre-marital sex IS NOT & SHOULD NOT be an issue.. Sex is a basic human need and it must remain that way ..its nothing sacred and nothing to be scared of..!! ;)
Fully agreed macho. But does that mean, that u would not feel bad if you find ur newly wedded wife is not a virgin ???? Most of the Sri Lankan people are good at saying things but when they get down to the real deal, they are the same way as the very people who they talked against. :D :D :D :D :D :D :D

[heshan123]

:( :( :( :( :( :( :( ahhh im ganna cry :( :( :( :(

u said im not qualified to post in here :( :( :( :( :(
Didn't you see the name of the thread ??? There is an age limit specified. Anyway since you seem to have some background on this I think its ok for u to keep on posting. The thing is macho these things are not relevant for an under-aged guy. It will only confuse him trying to figure out the big deal here. :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes:

[nAPs2JAAN]

Didn't you see the name of the thread ??? There is an age limit specified. Anyway since you seem to have some background on this I think its ok for u to keep on posting. The thing is macho these things are not relevant for an under-aged guy. It will only confuse him trying to figure out the big deal here. :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes:
:( :( :( ok im out :( :(

[ruchira_jay]

Fully agreed macho. But does that mean, that u would not feel bad if you find ur newly wedded wife is not a virgin ???? Most of the Sri Lankan people are good at saying things but when they get down to the real deal, they are the same way as the very people who they talked against. :D :D :D :D :D :D :D

Machang, its like this...if i've led a life of a monk (no sex, etc...) and if i find my wife's not a virgin and if im naive enough to judge her based on JUST the virginity, YES, there will be an issue..

BUT, my view is, regardless whether i;ve had sex (with someone else) or not, and if my newly wedded wife is not a virgin and if she's open and humble enough to admit it, then i have NO problem with it..

It all comes down to what you expect from a women/wife...

[heshan123]

:( :( :( ok im out :( :(
Hey hey come on man. Chill. I was just kiddin. Come back. :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

[heshan123]

Machang, its like this...if i've led a life of a monk (no sex, etc...) and if i find my wife's not a virgin and if im naive enough to judge her based on JUST the virginity, YES, there will be an issue..

BUT, my view is, regardless whether i;ve had sex (with someone else) or not, and if my newly wedded wife is not a virgin and if she's open and humble enough to admit it, then i have NO problem with it..

It all comes down to what you expect from a women/wife...
Great macho. Ur a great guy. I admire your thoughts. :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes:

[ruchira_jay]

Great macho. Ur a great guy. I admire your thoughts. :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes:

No worries machang...we all human and have brains and live in 21st centuary! :yes:

by the way, whats the deal here?.. umba langadi marry karannawath yanawada?.. ;)

[nAPs2JAAN]

Hey hey come on man. Chill. I was just kiddin. Come back. :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:
i was in a call dude u know
b4 she leaves to school im talking wit ma grl anyway u went to university ryt??

hehehehehhe ela ela gt u back i also gt2 go 2 apiit ;) ;)

[CoolCartoon]

i think no..................

[x-pert]

Machang, its like this...if i've led a life of a monk (no sex, etc...) and if i find my wife's not a virgin and if im naive enough to judge her based on JUST the virginity, YES, there will be an issue..

BUT, my view is, regardless whether i;ve had sex (with someone else) or not, and if my newly wedded wife is not a virgin and if she's open and humble enough to admit it, then i have NO problem with it..

It all comes down to what you expect from a women/wife...


mmmm... Same as my thoughts... Great machang...

If all the people can think like this, there wont be many issues in the families...

Just think about it guys.. WE ARE THE FUTURE...!!!
WE CAN CHANGE OUR MINDSETS...!!!

I am doing it machang... I'm not just telling... but I'm doing it... ;)

[MCLINER]

Sudu Malli.. :lol: :lol: :lol: ... Man Pata ban.. I'm well over 21...:yes: The reason why I say you should not go to the extreme is because by any chance if your relationship gets broken then you don't wanna be putting a girl's future in danger.. You Know Sri Lankan culture is different... Society don't expect sex before marriage..
:yes: tru

[MCLINER]

sex is something that important 4 lovers.it doesn't mean that all lovers should have sex b4 marriage but if both agree i mean if both feel like doing so its ok to have some cz it can make the relationship more stronger and always it will be a sweet memory for a couple. but marriage is the most important thin in a life for a couple as i think.
so what i recommend is to do big things after the marriage.
bt never do sex with a guy or a girl that u r not sure of marring bcz that will be a very very bad memory if u marry some1 els later on ur life :)
haha BIG things :lol:;);)

[heshan123]

No worries machang...we all human and have brains and live in 21st centuary! :yes:

by the way, whats the deal here?.. umba langadi marry karannawath yanawada?.. ;)
Oh no macho. Im still 21. :D :D
Just curious to know what u guys think about this issue. Thanks for the comments macho. :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes:

[MCLINER]

Oh no macho. Im still 21. :D :D
Just curious to know what u guys think about this issue. Thanks for the comments macho. :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes:
so watz ur final decesion??

having or nt b4 marriage ?? :D;);)

[heshan123]

so watz ur final decesion??

having or nt b4 marriage ?? :D;);)
Well im still looking forward to make that decision. Hope to see more posts for the thread. I will surely answer ur question soon. The thing is im also not 100% sure at any option as at for the moment. Would u do it before marriage ?

[MCLINER]

Well im still looking forward to make that decision. Hope to see more posts for the thread. I will surely answer ur question soon. The thing is im also not 100% sure at any option as at for the moment. Would u do it before marriage ?
hehe as naps and x-pert said BIG things aftr da marriage...hahaha

[heshan123]

hehe as naps and x-pert said BIG things aftr da marriage...hahaha
Did x-pert ayya say the same thing? Naps said that 'big things should come after marriage'. But not sure about x-pert ayya. :confused: :confused:

[x-pert]

hehe as naps and x-pert said BIG things aftr da marriage...hahaha


What what ...????

Where did I say something like that...???? :confused: :confused:

What I'm telling is... It is ok to have sex before marriage as it is a basic human need...

And as males, we shouldn't check for it after marrying a girl.. Whether she is a virgin or not, it shouldn't be a problem for their relationship...

And before marrying also, if the two people like to have it..... then have it... whats the big deal about it....??

[MCLINER]

Did x-pert ayya say the same thing? Naps said that 'big things should come after marriage'. But not sure about x-pert ayya. :confused: :confused:
ahh ya ya

but he did mean it

[x-pert]

Did x-pert ayya say the same thing? Naps said that 'big things should come after marriage'. But not sure about x-pert ayya. :confused: :confused:


Mekage tikak nut loose wenawa bung idala hitala.. hehe
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

[Ranhiru]

Im 17! Im outta here! :lol: :lol: :lol:

[MCLINER]

What what ...????

Where did I say something like that...???? :confused: :confused:

What I'm telling is... It is ok to have sex before marriage as it is a basic human need...

And as males, we shouldn't check for it after marrying a girl.. Whether she is a virgin or not, it shouldn't be a problem for their relationship...

And before marrying also, if the two people like to have it..... then have it... whats the big deal about it....??
ya itz nt prob if da boy is goin 2 marry her fr sure....if nt da gal's lyf is in dangr

[x-pert]

ahh ya ya

but he did mean it


No machang.. what I told is... there wont be a much difference between before and after marriage, if you have done it earlier....

But its upto the couple to decide.. Deffinitely it will increase the sensation of love and after having it both will have a bond which cant be broken easily... even the parents cant break it then.... (Just my ex...)

[MCLINER]

Mekage tikak nut loose wenawa bung idala hitala.. hehe
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
ne ban ubath kiwwe ewage 1kne....BIG THINGS SHOULD COME AFTR MARRIAGE kiyala nokiwwata

[x-pert]

ya itz nt prob if da boy is goin 2 marry her fr sure....if nt da gal's lyf is in dangr


WHAT??? How can that happen.... Thats coz of this society bro.... We have to change our mindsets first...

Virginity shouldn't play a big role in our lives...

Do we know whether the girl have kissed a person earlier... before us..??
No ne...

So what matters most is the TRUST

[MCLINER]

WHAT??? How can that happen.... Thats coz of this society bro.... We have to change our mindsets first...

Virginity shouldn't play a big role in our lives...

Do we know whether the girl have kissed a person earlier... before us..??
No ne...

So what matters most is the TRUST
ya ban itz tru

but v cnt change da society ne ban

even i dun care...but sum ppl cares ne ban ekai kiwwe...

[mydev]

I thought of replying this coz it seems to be an interesting topic


1.I believe sex is the second uncontrollable feeling after Hunger. But having sex(means having a real sexual intercourse with each other) before marrage is not a good thing for both the parties. Coz , if you happen to break up because of some reason you would tend to regreat for what you did in the past. And there might be a next person who comes to you and that might become your true love over time. But Do you think you can forget the past?wouldn't that memory hurt you each time you touch your true love?Wouldn't you ever feel "I shouldn't have done that,I should have waited for this person?". Apart from all these having a kiss , holding each others hand would make your love even more beautiful than having sex. I mind you sex is a NEED of the life,But LOVE is a part of your soul. We should always think about the other person and should always keep a path in which that person can walk back to his or her former life if he or she needs to break up. TRUE LOVE never takes anything(not even virginity) from the other person,it only gives.

[Alaya]

Pissuda kollo, badinne mokatada? :lol:

Habai only one at one time.

[mydev]

If you don't marry,Then you are after your NEED,It is almost loke you eating something to satisfy your hunger.After eating you never think of it unless it causes you bad stomach ache:D . it can not be explained as LOVE.
:)

[x-pert]

I thought of replying this coz it seems to be an interesting topic


1.I believe sex is the second uncontrollable feeling after Hunger. But having sex(means having a real sexual intercourse with each other) before marrage is not a good thing for both the parties. Coz , if you happen to break up because of some reason you would tend to regreat for what you did in the past. And there might be a next person who comes to you and that might become your true love over time. But Do you think you can forget the past?wouldn't that memory hurt you each time you touch your true love?Wouldn't you ever feel "I shouldn't have done that,I should have waited for this person?". Apart from all these having a kiss , holding each others hand would make your love even more beautiful than having sex. I mind you sex is a NEED of the life,But LOVE is a part of your soul. We should always think about the other person and should always keep a path in which that person can walk back to his or her former life if he or she needs to break up. TRUE LOVE never takes anything(not even virginity) from the other person,it only gives.


Interesting thought Bro / Sis...

Anyway..... your scenario occurs only if the society needs to check it... If the importance is less about the virginity, then it wont be a problem ne..

I know sex plays an important role in life.. Thats what I said earlier as well... You have to find the most suitable person in this world for you... Then that love will increase with sexual relationships as well.

Agreed to the fact that you dont need to have sex to have a good relationship... totally agreed...

But with sex, you create an unbreakable relationship..

But again... in reality.. everything that has a begining has an end... so if the relationship ended up in a bad way.. yeah it will affect both the minds.... but what I am telling is it shouldn't affect the LIFE... it shouldn't be a problem for the next person to marry her...

[MCLINER]

Interesting thought Bro / Sis...

Anyway..... your scenario occurs only if the society needs to check it... If the importance is less about the virginity, then it wont be a problem ne..

I know sex plays an important role in life.. Thats what I said earlier as well... You have to find the most suitable person in this world for you... Then that love will increase with sexual relationships as well.

Agreed to the fact that you dont need to have sex to have a good relationship... totally agreed...

But with sex, you create an unbreakable relationship..

But again... in reality.. everything that has a begining has an end... so if the relationship ended up in a bad way.. yeah it will affect both the minds.... but what I am telling is it shouldn't affect the LIFE... it shouldn't be a problem for the next person to marry her...
uba nam

real X-PERT

[nEoN_wHitE]

uba nam

real X-PERT
me podi ekath avila me thread ekata....
hey only 21+:P:P

[mydev]

yea..dude i agree, but human being is by nature imperfect. Though it shouldn't matter to the next person can you ever imagine that the love of your life have had sex with someone before you met him or her...Such a feeling will definitely make loop holes in your realtionship with the other person and ultimately you would be living with someone whom you really don't want to be...:)

[malin7510]

ok ppl, here goes...
in ma experiyance and what i have senn all those years ...yes u dont have to get married to have sex... if your partner dos not have any problems with it. and tha girl MUST always be CAREFUL regarding sex.... boys r ok... they dont have any thing to prove or protect ... cos in our culture ....if a girl gets prgi before marrege.. u know what happens ok... ???
so GALS ITS OK to HAve SAFE SEX.
machanla... it is very hard to find a VERGIN to get married these days..... :-)
so dont get upset if u r lady is not a vergin in the wedding night.
BECAUSE that dosent garanty that she will not leave u so some other guy some day...
it is all the chemistry that works.......... !!!!!
if the chemistry is correct ...every thang will work fine if u had sex before marrege... get the point..
if not skype me.. :-)
because this thang happend to one of my BEST BEST friends.... n he is totaly lost now. :-(
take care ppl.
regards.
M da buwa.

[x-pert]

yea..dude i agree, but human being is by nature imperfect. Though it shouldn't matter to the next person can you ever imagine that the love of your life have had sex with someone before you met him or her...Such a feeling will definitely make loop holes in your realtionship with the other person and ultimately you would be living with someone whom you really don't want to be...:)


There ya go.... Now now.... Hmmmmmm......

Okay... again I have to say bro... I am doing it.. um not just telling it... I'm doing it right now.. But thats not a problem to my relationship....

Cheers..!! No more comments for this thread from me...

[shaggy]

macho bandata passema sex karapan

[mydev]

Ok here is an open quetion..,Do you want to marry the one that you LOVE?

[Tuffey]

WHAT??? How can that happen.... Thats coz of this society bro.... We have to change our mindsets first...

Virginity shouldn't play a big role in our lives...

Do we know whether the girl have kissed a person earlier... before us..??
No ne...

So what matters most is the TRUST

Thats true bro......... I'm totally against with this virginity thing......... It's doing lot of harm to girls' lives......... even though they had sex or not , as you said in a previous post by birth of course they may be not having that...

In my point of view...... I guess It's up to the two people who are in love........ If they have the trust and the understanding to each other it will be no harm.......


But in the other hand girls should keep in mind that if the relationship will break, they have to marry another person and she don't know what will happen to her future..... coz all the guys not same.........so there'll be a risk of course..........:yes: :yes:

[heshan123]

Thats true bro......... I'm totally against with this virginity thing......... It's doing lot of harm to girls' lives......... even though they had sex or not , as you said in a previous post by birth of course they may be not having that...

In my point of view...... I guess It's up to the two people who are in love........ If they have the trust and the understanding to each other it will be no harm.......


But in the other hand girls should keep in mind that if the relationship will break, they have to marry another person and she don't know what will happen to her future..... coz all the guys not same.........so there'll be a risk of course..........:yes: :yes:
Agreed. But the guy is also running the same risk. Isn't it? Even though no one will findout, he will suffer from the truth he can never deny.

[hemalsilva]

DO RIGHT THING AT RIGHT TIME ! ! PEREHERA GIYATA PASSE SORRY THAMA ! !

[upuldi]

in SL its a must .......... but not compulsory 4 a boy ... but in da case of a girl its better to have ......... ;) ;) ;)

And the most impotent thing is according to my knowledge almost all boys violates its b4 their merrage ........ :D :lol:

[blackroses]

my simple answer............

IT DEPENDS ON DEM

[Chinthakas]

I think its ok....bt must not go to the deeeepest....(u knw wht i mean)

[nagaya]

I think "NO"