mama adaren peraduna....

[Freaksy]

ane mama mage pratama :love: eken peradunane!! mata harima dukai... mata meka daragena inna beri nisai mama me meka meke demme!!:no: :baffled:

ane kawuru hari hadawathak thiyena kenek mawa sanasanna..... my heart broken....:sorry: :(

[chanakacin]

ane mama mage pratama :love: eken peradunane!! mata harima dukai... mata meka daragena inna beri nisai mama me meka meke demme!!:no: :baffled:

ane kawuru hari hadawathak thiyena kenek mawa sanasanna..... my heart broken....:sorry: :(
ganan ganna epaa. mokoo une
Welcome 2 Elakiri

[shenigirl]

Its lyf....:yes:

we all go thru tyms lyk this....we have to face it sis/bro:yes:

[chanakacin]

Its lyf....:yes:

we all go thru tyms lyk this....we have to face it sis/bro:yes:
:yes: :yes:
he he habai kiyana tharam lesi naa. but we should try neda

[shenigirl]

:yes: :yes:
he he habai kiyana tharam lesi naa. but we should try neda


ya eka aththa, kiyana tharam lesi na thamai, but we should try our best, our very best..:yes:

[snowgirl]

Welcome to real world! :)

Take ya time...u'll finee

[chanakacin]

ya eka aththa, kiyana tharam lesi na thamai, but we should try our best, our very best..:yes:
ow ow practically experience:rofl: :rofl:
ko me Freaksy mmmm log out velaa vagee
ayyoooo parakku vadi:( :(

[chanakacin]

Welcome to real world! :)

Take ya time...u'll finee
mmmm yaa. but he's already loged out.:( :(
maath EK ave podi ledakata thamai:rofl: :rofl: :P :P

[snowgirl]

mmmm yaa. but he's already loged out.:( :(
maath EK ave podi ledakata thamai:rofl: :rofl: :P :P
Oyath paw then :P..

Ledak nam go to the hospital :baffled:

[coolbigc]

good on ya mate.. Welcome back to the real world.... :P

[chanakacin]

Oyath paw then :P..

Ledak nam go to the hospital :baffled:
ow ane hospital nam giye private doctor kenek lagata nam giyaa. thibba lede vadi karaa.:P :P
dan paththakata velaa innavaa. no medicine. no treatments. feel peace. situation under controlled.
i never give up:D :D untill i got success:P
he he ganan ganna epaa mata pissu:rofl: :rofl:

[saviwill]

ane mama mage pratama :love: eken peradunane!! mata harima dukai... mata meka daragena inna beri nisai mama me meka meke demme!!:no: :baffled:

ane kawuru hari hadawathak thiyena kenek mawa sanasanna..... my heart broken....:sorry: :( 1 vani aken ohoma una kiyala ataarinna apa ..
2 para taryi karapan ......ubata den mokakda venna ona ....

[Gavindu]

Hahaha , well its life. and mahcan dnt trust someone too much. and dnt get too close to some on too. it will be hurt wehn they are gone. and i dnt trust girls too much cz. they are chaining within seconds. so be happy in ur life. dnt thnk abt the past cz u have ur own future. well @ last oya hamakenama innawa kuwata kauruth inne na dude. only ur parents will be there always. i also brokeup with my True love ... 1year wenawa and still pain with me. im sad cz i trust that person too much and we with that person all the time. but when i need her she was with others ....... and sehs not in SL also ..... Hmmmmmm dnt thnk

Everything throughout the universe is a constant flux and nothing permanent
this is the truth

[shenigirl]

Hahaha , well its life. and mahcan dnt trust someone too much. and dnt get too close to some on too. it will be hurt wehn they are gone. and i dnt trust girls too much cz. they are chaining within seconds. so be happy in ur life. dnt thnk abt the past cz u have ur own future. well @ last oya hamakenama innawa kuwata kauruth inne na dude. only ur parents will be there always. i also brokeup with my True love ... 1year wenawa and still pain with me. im sad cz i trust that person too much and we with that person all the time. but when i need her she was with others ....... and sehs not in SL also ..... Hmmmmmm dnt thnk

Everything throughout the universe is a constant flux and nothing permanent
this is the truth

Agreed 100%:)

[nEoN_wHitE]

Agreed 100%:)
100.01% agreed mamath :yes:

[chanaka89]

Ganan ganna epa banz.Wena ekak daganin.Serious karanna yanna epa.Onewata wada trust karannath epa

[anarkalee]

owa ohoma tamai. adaren paradune neththe kawuda kiyala hoyala balanna.api hamoma wage adaren peradila tiyenawa.iwasala inna.kawada hari dawasaka oyawa dala giya kenata aimath oyawa ona wei.

[pink_lime1]

aww.. hama dey wenne hondata.. oyata kawadahari meeta vada honda kenek hambuwei good luck! and be happy soon ...

[shenigirl]

aww.. hama dey wenne hondata.. oyata kawadahari meeta vada honda kenek hambuwei good luck! and be happy soon ...


exactly...:yes:

[pink_lime1]

exactly...:yes:

yay agreed~

[moonlight]

DNT WORRY FRND..KEEP POSTING HEAR.. IT'L CURE VRY SOON....

[BUA]

ane mama mage pratama :love: eken peradunane!! mata harima dukai... mata meka daragena inna beri nisai mama me meka meke demme!!:no: :baffled:

ane kawuru hari hadawathak thiyena kenek mawa sanasanna..... my heart broken....:sorry: :(

ok dun worry bro..follow these steps. u will be oki after 7 days for Sure

Step 1-
ACCEPTANCE

"Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with
acceptance can there be recovery." - Joanne Kathleen Rowling

The first step in letting go is to accept the fact that
it's over. At first this can be a hard pill to swallow
because it's difficult to let go of the hopes and dreams
you've had with someone. But...

The sooner you are honest with yourself that "it's over"
the sooner you will begin the process of moving on.

You may not like it; you may wish things worked
out differently; you may even want to get back
together. But, it's not until you face the reality
that your life with this person has ended that you
can begin to pick up the pieces and move on.

You may go over in your mind how things could've
been; you many constantly fill your mind with thoughts
of the past and how you could've done things
differently. That's normal.

Learn from the mistakes that were made in this
relationship, use them as tools to learn from your
past and they will help you to have a better future.

When you really want something and invest so
much time in trying to make things work, it's
human nature to feel bad if the outcome isn't what
you desired.

It's okay to have dreams; it's the beginning of knowing
what you want. Your dreams can and will be fulfilled,
the only difference is it will be with someone else.

When you accept that things will never work out
with this person, only then will you begin to believe
that you will move on from this heartache; and that
is the first step in letting go.

Facing the end of hope and moving past it is the
beginning of acceptance.

Remember, the end is a "new" beginning. You will survive!


Step 2

MAKE A CLEAN BREAK

"Tis better to be alone than in bad company." -George Washington


This is a big one. If there is one thing
you can do for yourself that will help you to
move on with your life the fastest....it will
be to avoid this on-again-off-again dance that
so many people experience when ending a relationship.

If it's over...it's over!

Deep down in your heart you know it, but
many people hope against hope that if they
go back just one more time, things will work out.

So...they go back and try and 99% of the time
it's the same sad outcome, minus a couple of
precious months that would have been better spent
in trying to heal themselves.

Don't try to be friends. Don't meet for dinner
to just to see them one more time.
Don't talk on the phone and rehash the past.
Don't let them continue to be a part
of your life when they're not.

I know it's hard to make the break, but be
strong and keep your distance. It will make
it easier on you in the long run. Instead,
if you choose to keep in touch; you will only
prolong the process. You will have to go
through it anyway, so why put it off and make it harder
on yourself?

All of our choices have consequences.
When you choose to see them one more time or
talk to them again and again; the consequence is;
you will begin to heal later rather than sooner.
You hold onto the hope that things might work
out which will only be a disappointment to you in the long run.

Making a clean break and acceptance
go hand in hand. The "clean break" is evidence
that you've "accepted" that's it's over and you are ready to
move on with your life.

So...If you really want to be friends,
allow yourself the time to get over the pain of
the break-up and then if you still want to...you can resume
your friendship.

Remember, you are taking the right steps in helping to heal your broken heart
and...You will survive!

STEP 3


IT'S OKAY TO GRIEVE...LET IT OUT AND LET IT GO

"People have a hard time letting go of their suffering.
Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering
that is familiar." -Thich Nhat Hanh

Dealing with all of the painful emotions that go along with
"the breakup" is simply something you have to go through.
It's okay, you've got to let it out in order to let it go.

Cry, scream and moan. Whatever it takes to release it, do it.
Vent every single emotion you have and get it out of
your system. When you are tired of crying, try journaling.
Write down all of your thoughts and feelings.
Cleanse your soul of your pain.

Grieving your loss is perfectly okay.
This is the time to cry away the past so you can begin
to put it behind you. It's normal to go through the mourning process.

So don't feel bad for feeling bad.

Keep reminding yourself that you will get through this,
you just have to allow yourself a little time.
Don't let this time go on too long where you find yourself
stuck and can't let go.

Give yourself a deadline: A week, a month or a
little longer; pick a date and write it down.

"Just because your relationship is over, doesn't mean your life is over!"

It's inevitable that you are going to feel bad
but as time goes by you will begin to feel better.
Just hang in there!

Pat yourself on the back; you're doing what it takes
to help yourself on the road to a better life.
No one else can do it for you. So...stay
focused on your future...and know that as time
goes by you are getting closer to a stronger you!
Remember...You will survive!

step 4

FOCUS ON YOURSELF

"We either make ourselves happy or miserable. The amount of
work is the same." -Carlos Castaneda

Indulge yourself. You are going through a tough time right now
so take extra care in being easy on yourself.
Treat yourself to all of the little niceties that will
make YOU feel better.

New hair-cut, color, make-up, facial, manicure or massage.
Buy yourself something you've been wanting.
Go and do something you enjoy. Do anything that makes you
feel great about yourself, or anything that you love
doing which you've been putting off.

Join a gym, if you can't afford it, go for a walk and
commune with nature. Go on a vacation or go out with
your friends again. Occupy yourself with positive activities
and stay focused on things that make you happy.

If someone you love was going through the same thing,
how would you treat them? Well, that someone you "should"
love is yourself. Spoil and pamper yourself
just as you would someone you love.

This is a time to be nicer to yourself than you've ever been before...
You're worth it!

What you may not realize yet, is this: As time goes
by and you are starting to feel good again,
the person that is going to emerge will be the new
and improved version of you. Take this opportunity
to start to love yourself more. You have the power
to create your future. Choose to live it well!

STEP 5

TAKE YOURSELF TO THE NEXT LEVEL

"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life
you've imagined." -Henry David Thoreau

Now is the perfect opportunity to really begin a journey into
self discovery. Read books that will keep your mind focused
on improving all aspects of your life. Getting your self-esteem
back on track is essential in progressing toward a better future.

Be extremely cognizant of the things you say
to yourself. Negative talk will only make you
feel worse. Make sure your self talk is positive,
encouraging and complimentary.

Your words have the power to make you or break you!

Your thoughts are the most powerful weapon you have
in creating the kind of life you want.

Discover what it is you want your life to look like, and then
learn how to set goals and go after them. Self help is
exactly that: helping your "self" in having a better life.

You're going through a lot right now.
So, take it a day at a time and make sure
your tomorrows are better by taking the steps today
to improve your life.


Remember...You are getting there!

Step 6

LEARN TO FORGIVE

"When a deep injury is done to us, we never recover
until we forgive." -Alan Paton

Okay, even though it may seem impossible right now,
the sooner you do this...the sooner you will...
let go for good. You have to learn how to forgive
the other person. But...first...you have to forgive yourself!

If you've make mistakes...forgive yourself and go on.
There is nothing you can do now to change the past,
but you can affect your future.

Forgiving yourself takes the pressure off of you
for not being perfect. And, it gets rid of guilt.
You must learn to forgive yourself before you can
forgive others.

Second, forgive him or her. If you don't, you will be
holding onto the past. You may carry anger and
resentment around with you which will hurt you...more than them.

Harboring negative emotions can make you bitter and
resentful. It can permeate all areas of your life
and it makes it harder to enjoy today.

Not forgiving keeps you trapped exactly where you
don't want to be...holding onto memories of the past.
Once you find forgiveness you will regain control of your life.

It's your choice!

STEP 7

MOVE ON...SO YOU CAN LIVE THE LIFE YOU DESERVE

"Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live."
-Dorothy Thompson

The end is just the beginning!

It is your chance to begin a journey to discover
who you are, to understand that you deserve more,
and to learn what you truly want out of life.

The reality is, for whatever reason, your relationship
is over. But, that doesn't mean your life is over.

You may not like it, but the truth is...you have a
choice. You can choose to continue to make your
life miserable by holding on to something that doesn't
exist anymore. (Only in your hopes and dreams).

Or...you can make the decision; that even though
things didn't work out the way you wanted...you
are going to pick up the pieces of your life and
"move on".

It really is your choice!

After you go through the necessary and normal process
of getting over this relationship, choose
to take charge of your life and go after what you want.

Find the courage to pull yourself up and not let this
destroy you. You deserve all of the happiness and love
you've always wanted and you can still have it, it will just
be with someone new.

There really is life after what's-his-name. You just have
to make the decision to let go and move on.

You and you alone possess the power to do whatever you want.

Read these lessons. Start applying the lessons into
your life. Take little steps each day and you will be
amazed that you really are starting to feel better



Follow these 7 steps in 7 days, i can guarantee u will oki

[funkoluwa]

oka ochchara amaru nehe bang wena kellekta try karapang neththang ohe athal eke free eke hitapang

[BUA]

oka ochchara amaru nehe bang wena kellekta try karapang neththang ohe athal eke free eke hitapang


kianna nam lesiy iting, karannda giama thama amarua :dull:

[chanakacin]

kianna nam lesiy iting, karannda giama thama amarua :dull:
:yes: :yes:

[saliemo]

machan, i know how it hurts... just let it go... . this is life.. we cant get everything in life da way we want...remember dis, trust no one...... dont ruin ur future....
be happy in ur life.....

Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a teardrop.

[chanakacin]

100.01% agreed mamath :yes:
:confused: :confused: :confused: :confused:

[nwnbs]

ok dun worry bro..follow these steps. u will be oki after 7 days for Sure

Step 1-
ACCEPTANCE

"Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with
acceptance can there be recovery." - Joanne Kathleen Rowling

The first step in letting go is to accept the fact that
it's over. At first this can be a hard pill to swallow
because it's difficult to let go of the hopes and dreams
you've had with someone. But...

The sooner you are honest with yourself that "it's over"
the sooner you will begin the process of moving on.

You may not like it; you may wish things worked
out differently; you may even want to get back
together. But, it's not until you face the reality
that your life with this person has ended that you
can begin to pick up the pieces and move on.

You may go over in your mind how things could've
been; you many constantly fill your mind with thoughts
of the past and how you could've done things
differently. That's normal.

Learn from the mistakes that were made in this
relationship, use them as tools to learn from your
past and they will help you to have a better future.

When you really want something and invest so
much time in trying to make things work, it's
human nature to feel bad if the outcome isn't what
you desired.

It's okay to have dreams; it's the beginning of knowing
what you want. Your dreams can and will be fulfilled,
the only difference is it will be with someone else.

When you accept that things will never work out
with this person, only then will you begin to believe
that you will move on from this heartache; and that
is the first step in letting go.

Facing the end of hope and moving past it is the
beginning of acceptance.

Remember, the end is a "new" beginning. You will survive!


Step 2

MAKE A CLEAN BREAK

"Tis better to be alone than in bad company." -George Washington


This is a big one. If there is one thing
you can do for yourself that will help you to
move on with your life the fastest....it will
be to avoid this on-again-off-again dance that
so many people experience when ending a relationship.

If it's over...it's over!

Deep down in your heart you know it, but
many people hope against hope that if they
go back just one more time, things will work out.

So...they go back and try and 99% of the time
it's the same sad outcome, minus a couple of
precious months that would have been better spent
in trying to heal themselves.

Don't try to be friends. Don't meet for dinner
to just to see them one more time.
Don't talk on the phone and rehash the past.
Don't let them continue to be a part
of your life when they're not.

I know it's hard to make the break, but be
strong and keep your distance. It will make
it easier on you in the long run. Instead,
if you choose to keep in touch; you will only
prolong the process. You will have to go
through it anyway, so why put it off and make it harder
on yourself?

All of our choices have consequences.
When you choose to see them one more time or
talk to them again and again; the consequence is;
you will begin to heal later rather than sooner.
You hold onto the hope that things might work
out which will only be a disappointment to you in the long run.

Making a clean break and acceptance
go hand in hand. The "clean break" is evidence
that you've "accepted" that's it's over and you are ready to
move on with your life.

So...If you really want to be friends,
allow yourself the time to get over the pain of
the break-up and then if you still want to...you can resume
your friendship.

Remember, you are taking the right steps in helping to heal your broken heart
and...You will survive!

STEP 3


IT'S OKAY TO GRIEVE...LET IT OUT AND LET IT GO

"People have a hard time letting go of their suffering.
Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering
that is familiar." -Thich Nhat Hanh

Dealing with all of the painful emotions that go along with
"the breakup" is simply something you have to go through.
It's okay, you've got to let it out in order to let it go.

Cry, scream and moan. Whatever it takes to release it, do it.
Vent every single emotion you have and get it out of
your system. When you are tired of crying, try journaling.
Write down all of your thoughts and feelings.
Cleanse your soul of your pain.

Grieving your loss is perfectly okay.
This is the time to cry away the past so you can begin
to put it behind you. It's normal to go through the mourning process.

So don't feel bad for feeling bad.

Keep reminding yourself that you will get through this,
you just have to allow yourself a little time.
Don't let this time go on too long where you find yourself
stuck and can't let go.

Give yourself a deadline: A week, a month or a
little longer; pick a date and write it down.

"Just because your relationship is over, doesn't mean your life is over!"

It's inevitable that you are going to feel bad
but as time goes by you will begin to feel better.
Just hang in there!

Pat yourself on the back; you're doing what it takes
to help yourself on the road to a better life.
No one else can do it for you. So...stay
focused on your future...and know that as time
goes by you are getting closer to a stronger you!
Remember...You will survive!

step 4

FOCUS ON YOURSELF

"We either make ourselves happy or miserable. The amount of
work is the same." -Carlos Castaneda

Indulge yourself. You are going through a tough time right now
so take extra care in being easy on yourself.
Treat yourself to all of the little niceties that will
make YOU feel better.

New hair-cut, color, make-up, facial, manicure or massage.
Buy yourself something you've been wanting.
Go and do something you enjoy. Do anything that makes you
feel great about yourself, or anything that you love
doing which you've been putting off.

Join a gym, if you can't afford it, go for a walk and
commune with nature. Go on a vacation or go out with
your friends again. Occupy yourself with positive activities
and stay focused on things that make you happy.

If someone you love was going through the same thing,
how would you treat them? Well, that someone you "should"
love is yourself. Spoil and pamper yourself
just as you would someone you love.

This is a time to be nicer to yourself than you've ever been before...
You're worth it!

What you may not realize yet, is this: As time goes
by and you are starting to feel good again,
the person that is going to emerge will be the new
and improved version of you. Take this opportunity
to start to love yourself more. You have the power
to create your future. Choose to live it well!

STEP 5

TAKE YOURSELF TO THE NEXT LEVEL

"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life
you've imagined." -Henry David Thoreau

Now is the perfect opportunity to really begin a journey into
self discovery. Read books that will keep your mind focused
on improving all aspects of your life. Getting your self-esteem
back on track is essential in progressing toward a better future.

Be extremely cognizant of the things you say
to yourself. Negative talk will only make you
feel worse. Make sure your self talk is positive,
encouraging and complimentary.

Your words have the power to make you or break you!

Your thoughts are the most powerful weapon you have
in creating the kind of life you want.

Discover what it is you want your life to look like, and then
learn how to set goals and go after them. Self help is
exactly that: helping your "self" in having a better life.

You're going through a lot right now.
So, take it a day at a time and make sure
your tomorrows are better by taking the steps today
to improve your life.


Remember...You are getting there!

Step 6

LEARN TO FORGIVE

"When a deep injury is done to us, we never recover
until we forgive." -Alan Paton

Okay, even though it may seem impossible right now,
the sooner you do this...the sooner you will...
let go for good. You have to learn how to forgive
the other person. But...first...you have to forgive yourself!

If you've make mistakes...forgive yourself and go on.
There is nothing you can do now to change the past,
but you can affect your future.

Forgiving yourself takes the pressure off of you
for not being perfect. And, it gets rid of guilt.
You must learn to forgive yourself before you can
forgive others.

Second, forgive him or her. If you don't, you will be
holding onto the past. You may carry anger and
resentment around with you which will hurt you...more than them.

Harboring negative emotions can make you bitter and
resentful. It can permeate all areas of your life
and it makes it harder to enjoy today.

Not forgiving keeps you trapped exactly where you
don't want to be...holding onto memories of the past.
Once you find forgiveness you will regain control of your life.

It's your choice!

STEP 7

MOVE ON...SO YOU CAN LIVE THE LIFE YOU DESERVE

"Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live."
-Dorothy Thompson

The end is just the beginning!

It is your chance to begin a journey to discover
who you are, to understand that you deserve more,
and to learn what you truly want out of life.

The reality is, for whatever reason, your relationship
is over. But, that doesn't mean your life is over.

You may not like it, but the truth is...you have a
choice. You can choose to continue to make your
life miserable by holding on to something that doesn't
exist anymore. (Only in your hopes and dreams).

Or...you can make the decision; that even though
things didn't work out the way you wanted...you
are going to pick up the pieces of your life and
"move on".

It really is your choice!

After you go through the necessary and normal process
of getting over this relationship, choose
to take charge of your life and go after what you want.

Find the courage to pull yourself up and not let this
destroy you. You deserve all of the happiness and love
you've always wanted and you can still have it, it will just
be with someone new.

There really is life after what's-his-name. You just have
to make the decision to let go and move on.

You and you alone possess the power to do whatever you want.

Read these lessons. Start applying the lessons into
your life. Take little steps each day and you will be
amazed that you really are starting to feel better



Follow these 7 steps in 7 days, i can guarantee u will oki

:shocked: :shocked: :shocked: Happaaa....meke diga...:lol: :lol: :lol:

[chanakacin]

:shocked: :shocked: :shocked: Happaaa....meke diga...:lol: :lol: :lol:
diga madi neda :eek: :eek:

[Freaksy]

ganan ganna epaa. mokoo une
Welcome 2 Elakiri

mekai wune, mama adare karapu girl kisima hethuwak nethuwa eka paratama mawa dala giya!! eya kiyanawa eyata dan mawa poddakwath dakinna one ne kiyala!!:no: :no: :(

[Freaksy]

ok dun worry bro..follow these steps. u will be oki after 7 days for Sure

Step 1-
ACCEPTANCE

"Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with
acceptance can there be recovery." - Joanne Kathleen Rowling

The first step in letting go is to accept the fact that
it's over. At first this can be a hard pill to swallow
because it's difficult to let go of the hopes and dreams
you've had with someone. But...

The sooner you are honest with yourself that "it's over"
the sooner you will begin the process of moving on.

You may not like it; you may wish things worked
out differently; you may even want to get back
together. But, it's not until you face the reality
that your life with this person has ended that you
can begin to pick up the pieces and move on.

You may go over in your mind how things could've
been; you many constantly fill your mind with thoughts
of the past and how you could've done things
differently. That's normal.

Learn from the mistakes that were made in this
relationship, use them as tools to learn from your
past and they will help you to have a better future.

When you really want something and invest so
much time in trying to make things work, it's
human nature to feel bad if the outcome isn't what
you desired.

It's okay to have dreams; it's the beginning of knowing
what you want. Your dreams can and will be fulfilled,
the only difference is it will be with someone else.

When you accept that things will never work out
with this person, only then will you begin to believe
that you will move on from this heartache; and that
is the first step in letting go.

Facing the end of hope and moving past it is the
beginning of acceptance.

Remember, the end is a "new" beginning. You will survive!


Step 2

MAKE A CLEAN BREAK

"Tis better to be alone than in bad company." -George Washington


This is a big one. If there is one thing
you can do for yourself that will help you to
move on with your life the fastest....it will
be to avoid this on-again-off-again dance that
so many people experience when ending a relationship.

If it's over...it's over!

Deep down in your heart you know it, but
many people hope against hope that if they
go back just one more time, things will work out.

So...they go back and try and 99% of the time
it's the same sad outcome, minus a couple of
precious months that would have been better spent
in trying to heal themselves.

Don't try to be friends. Don't meet for dinner
to just to see them one more time.
Don't talk on the phone and rehash the past.
Don't let them continue to be a part
of your life when they're not.

I know it's hard to make the break, but be
strong and keep your distance. It will make
it easier on you in the long run. Instead,
if you choose to keep in touch; you will only
prolong the process. You will have to go
through it anyway, so why put it off and make it harder
on yourself?

All of our choices have consequences.
When you choose to see them one more time or
talk to them again and again; the consequence is;
you will begin to heal later rather than sooner.
You hold onto the hope that things might work
out which will only be a disappointment to you in the long run.

Making a clean break and acceptance
go hand in hand. The "clean break" is evidence
that you've "accepted" that's it's over and you are ready to
move on with your life.

So...If you really want to be friends,
allow yourself the time to get over the pain of
the break-up and then if you still want to...you can resume
your friendship.

Remember, you are taking the right steps in helping to heal your broken heart
and...You will survive!

STEP 3


IT'S OKAY TO GRIEVE...LET IT OUT AND LET IT GO

"People have a hard time letting go of their suffering.
Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering
that is familiar." -Thich Nhat Hanh

Dealing with all of the painful emotions that go along with
"the breakup" is simply something you have to go through.
It's okay, you've got to let it out in order to let it go.

Cry, scream and moan. Whatever it takes to release it, do it.
Vent every single emotion you have and get it out of
your system. When you are tired of crying, try journaling.
Write down all of your thoughts and feelings.
Cleanse your soul of your pain.

Grieving your loss is perfectly okay.
This is the time to cry away the past so you can begin
to put it behind you. It's normal to go through the mourning process.

So don't feel bad for feeling bad.

Keep reminding yourself that you will get through this,
you just have to allow yourself a little time.
Don't let this time go on too long where you find yourself
stuck and can't let go.

Give yourself a deadline: A week, a month or a
little longer; pick a date and write it down.

"Just because your relationship is over, doesn't mean your life is over!"

It's inevitable that you are going to feel bad
but as time goes by you will begin to feel better.
Just hang in there!

Pat yourself on the back; you're doing what it takes
to help yourself on the road to a better life.
No one else can do it for you. So...stay
focused on your future...and know that as time
goes by you are getting closer to a stronger you!
Remember...You will survive!

step 4

FOCUS ON YOURSELF

"We either make ourselves happy or miserable. The amount of
work is the same." -Carlos Castaneda

Indulge yourself. You are going through a tough time right now
so take extra care in being easy on yourself.
Treat yourself to all of the little niceties that will
make YOU feel better.

New hair-cut, color, make-up, facial, manicure or massage.
Buy yourself something you've been wanting.
Go and do something you enjoy. Do anything that makes you
feel great about yourself, or anything that you love
doing which you've been putting off.

Join a gym, if you can't afford it, go for a walk and
commune with nature. Go on a vacation or go out with
your friends again. Occupy yourself with positive activities
and stay focused on things that make you happy.

If someone you love was going through the same thing,
how would you treat them? Well, that someone you "should"
love is yourself. Spoil and pamper yourself
just as you would someone you love.

This is a time to be nicer to yourself than you've ever been before...
You're worth it!

What you may not realize yet, is this: As time goes
by and you are starting to feel good again,
the person that is going to emerge will be the new
and improved version of you. Take this opportunity
to start to love yourself more. You have the power
to create your future. Choose to live it well!

STEP 5

TAKE YOURSELF TO THE NEXT LEVEL

"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life
you've imagined." -Henry David Thoreau

Now is the perfect opportunity to really begin a journey into
self discovery. Read books that will keep your mind focused
on improving all aspects of your life. Getting your self-esteem
back on track is essential in progressing toward a better future.

Be extremely cognizant of the things you say
to yourself. Negative talk will only make you
feel worse. Make sure your self talk is positive,
encouraging and complimentary.

Your words have the power to make you or break you!

Your thoughts are the most powerful weapon you have
in creating the kind of life you want.

Discover what it is you want your life to look like, and then
learn how to set goals and go after them. Self help is
exactly that: helping your "self" in having a better life.

You're going through a lot right now.
So, take it a day at a time and make sure
your tomorrows are better by taking the steps today
to improve your life.


Remember...You are getting there!

Step 6

LEARN TO FORGIVE

"When a deep injury is done to us, we never recover
until we forgive." -Alan Paton

Okay, even though it may seem impossible right now,
the sooner you do this...the sooner you will...
let go for good. You have to learn how to forgive
the other person. But...first...you have to forgive yourself!

If you've make mistakes...forgive yourself and go on.
There is nothing you can do now to change the past,
but you can affect your future.

Forgiving yourself takes the pressure off of you
for not being perfect. And, it gets rid of guilt.
You must learn to forgive yourself before you can
forgive others.

Second, forgive him or her. If you don't, you will be
holding onto the past. You may carry anger and
resentment around with you which will hurt you...more than them.

Harboring negative emotions can make you bitter and
resentful. It can permeate all areas of your life
and it makes it harder to enjoy today.

Not forgiving keeps you trapped exactly where you
don't want to be...holding onto memories of the past.
Once you find forgiveness you will regain control of your life.

It's your choice!

STEP 7

MOVE ON...SO YOU CAN LIVE THE LIFE YOU DESERVE

"Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live."
-Dorothy Thompson

The end is just the beginning!

It is your chance to begin a journey to discover
who you are, to understand that you deserve more,
and to learn what you truly want out of life.

The reality is, for whatever reason, your relationship
is over. But, that doesn't mean your life is over.

You may not like it, but the truth is...you have a
choice. You can choose to continue to make your
life miserable by holding on to something that doesn't
exist anymore. (Only in your hopes and dreams).

Or...you can make the decision; that even though
things didn't work out the way you wanted...you
are going to pick up the pieces of your life and
"move on".

It really is your choice!

After you go through the necessary and normal process
of getting over this relationship, choose
to take charge of your life and go after what you want.

Find the courage to pull yourself up and not let this
destroy you. You deserve all of the happiness and love
you've always wanted and you can still have it, it will just
be with someone new.

There really is life after what's-his-name. You just have
to make the decision to let go and move on.

You and you alone possess the power to do whatever you want.

Read these lessons. Start applying the lessons into
your life. Take little steps each day and you will be
amazed that you really are starting to feel better



Follow these 7 steps in 7 days, i can guarantee u will oki

thanks machan, mata mona stepsda??:no:

[chanakacin]

mekai wune, mama adare karapu girl kisima hethuwak nethuwa eka paratama mawa dala giya!! eya kiyanawa eyata dan mawa poddakwath dakinna one ne kiyala!!:no: :no: :(
machoo mokakda une kiyala balanna. samahara vita oyaa gana varadi adahasak eyaage hithe athi. ehema nathnam kauru hari oyaa gana monava hari kivvada danne naa:) :)

[binu_rulz]

yo coool down yo lifes a bitch yo get used to it

[BUA]

thanks machan, mata mona stepsda??:no:

Lankawenma boot ekek kaala tiyenne uba witarai wagene :frown:

[eranda444]

ane mama mage pratama :love: eken peradunane!! mata harima dukai... mata meka daragena inna beri nisai mama me meka meke demme!!:no: :baffled:

ane kawuru hari hadawathak thiyena kenek mawa sanasanna..... my heart broken....:sorry: :(


uba witarak neme machan math ekekn paraduna kenek eth ganan ganna epa owa mama nam hita hada gatta bann:yes: :yes: :yes:

[eranda444]

Lankawenma boot ekek kaala tiyenne uba witarai wagene :frown:
eka ahta owath prashnada neda machan owa wadiya ganan nogena inna one

[raj86421]

OWA OHOMA THAMAIIIIIIII

[BUA]

eka ahta owath prashnada neda machan owa wadiya ganan nogena inna one


ow ban kohomatat iting,, GENU JATHIYA; JARA JATHIYA
ne bang,,:rolleyes:

[schnjayaratne]

aneeeeeee don't worry,,,,,,ohoma thama,,,ganan ganna epa:) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) paw aneeeeeeeeeee

[chanakacin]

aneeeeeee don't worry,,,,,,ohoma thama,,,ganan ganna epa:) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) paw aneeeeeeeeeee
oyaa nam kiyay. miniha full upset gahala.:yes: :yes:
aneeee maath pawneeeeeeeeee:( :( :lol: :lol:

[blackroses]

machanz........... eka eka upasedak witarak dennam

luv is not everythn..............

[VASSA]

ane macha oya shenigirl kiyana kenata bamboo gahaganna kiyapan....uba repect 1e idapan

[anurudda]

hapoi; join the club kiwwalu!